We all know someone who goes about each and every day acting like a total pain in the backside, singing the same tune, “oh woe is me. What did I ever do in this life to deserve such misfortune? The world never gave me any favours so why should I be happy?” Maybe that person even is you.
If you can relate to anything I’ve said above you often find that to begin with you might take pity on that person for feeling this way and try to comfort them, trying to help them through difficult times. However, there is only so much support you can give someone who isn’t willing to help themselves and make their life better until you’re emotionally and mentally drained resenting their behaviour. The crux of the issue is that the world doesn’t owe you a living, you have to make your way in this world, cultivate your own happiness and learn and grow from your successes and failures. Moping around ruining everyone else’s day won’t make anyone more likely to be your friend nor will it make your day any brighter.
If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook I have been directing you to a fabulous Ted Talk by Ellis Watson called “Disrupt Yourself or Die Trying.” I will link it here, it’s 15 minutes of your day that could give you a completely different outlook on your life. We live for a relatively short period of time and I ask you a serious question- during this short space of time you get to inhabit planet earth do you want to merely exist and survive or do you want to thrive and make a difference?
As children we are constantly learning new things and developing ourselves through a sense of curiosity. The older we get the more responsibilities we gain and eventually you find yourself stuck at your desk at that dead end job, which you said you would only stay at for a year to gain some experience and pay the bills and save for a nice holiday and now you notice it’s been ten years since you began working for the business. You’re bitter about all the dreams you once had and never did anything to achieve and don’t know how to get out of this headspace. No one else but you will help you out of this scenario. You can rewrite the story and have the happy ever after that you always wanted. It is important to learn from past experiences and if they don’t bring you joy or a sense of satisfaction, understand that you have the power not to let that pattern become repetitive.
Go outside, take up a new hobby, meet new people. Do things that terrify you because they will give you so much clarity and help you decide what you want out of life. Make an impact firstly on your own life and then share that passion with the world. Become a child once more, look at tasks with a fresh eye and a different mindset. That dull job you have to do every day at work- find a way to make it fun. Want to start that business or charity or run that event? As Nike say, “Just do it.” It’s ok to fail, those who learn from failure become better and stronger people; those who sit on the fence and never try for fear of failure never experience the exhilaration of taking the future into their own hands.
Learn how to love all that life has to offer you and don’t waste this short but precious time you have on this earth. Learn from each and everyday how to better yourself just a tiny bit more. Learn from everyone around you- even the people you really dislike. I often find that I’ve learn’t my biggest lessons from people who didn’t resonate with my values because they showed me a different view point. Tomorrow isn’t the day to start- the time to start is right now. Remember, if it all goes belly up and not the way you had hoped: every situation is recoverable- you just have to take the time to learn from it.
Until Next Time